Consensual Rape? A Feminist’s Story of Violence, Love, and Sexual Empowerment

By Birdie McNeill, guest edited by pajarolibre (PJ) Content Warning: This piece discusses sex, kink, and consensual violence, which may be triggering to some readers. “He held my hands above my head.” “Like this?” my partner said, grabbing my wrists. “Yes. I remember trying to crawl out from under him, but I was drunk … [Read more...]

Femme Erasure In the Queer Community

Author's Note: I am not distinguishing between trans and cis women. I have had conversations with both and, while there is some divergence of experience, for the purposes of this post, “femme-identified woman” applies to anyone who identifies as such, regardless of assigned sex at birth.   By Malachi for Monomaniacism, … [Read more...]

Finding Self-Care Through the Joy of Masturbation

“Have you ever masturbated?” whispered my friend Joyce when our fifth grade class lined up to leave the auditorium following the sexual education assembly. “No!” I responded, slightly mortified, but intently curious. “Have you?” “No,” she said with a knowing smile.But she told me she had noticed that her baby cousin was … [Read more...]

5 Ways Sex Ed Promotes Shame

By Birdie McNeill Wouldn’t it be great if sex education helped students feel comfortable and informed when they (eventually) pursued healthy, sexual relationships? Unfortunately, sex education in the US often does the opposite, ignoring the most essential safety information and promoting a sense of shame around body, gender, and … [Read more...]

You Deserve Respectful Sexual Healthcare

By Bianca Palmisano of Intimate Health Consulting, originally published on Slut, Ph.D. and cross-posted with permission “The gynecologist assumed that because I’d had male and female partners within the last year, I was irresponsible somehow. And to top it off, she didn’t even know what a dental dam was, when I told her I’d been … [Read more...]

Therese Shechter on Sexuality, Abstinence, and How to Lose your Virginity

By Allison Epstein What is a virgin? It seems like a question with a straightforward answer – someone who’s never had sex...right? But in her new documentary How to Lose your Virginity, Therese Shechter wants us to know that the issue of virginity is not so simple. Okay, let’s say for the moment that a virgin is someone who has … [Read more...]

Mama Needs a New Vag? Plastic Surgery Trend Preys on Post-Pregnancy Vulnerability

By Ashley-Michelle Papon If you’re not familiar with Brandi Glanville, consider yourself lucky. The one-time model and current star of “The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” rose to a mediocre level of celebrity as the woman scorned by established B-lister Eddie Cibrian. In 2008, Cibrian, after nine years of marriage, jilted … [Read more...]

Our Vulvas, Ourselves

By Melissa A. Fabello As a sex educator with a specialization in body image, I receive a lot of anonymous messages in my Tumblr inbox from people wanting to know if their body is “good enough” for sex. Will my boyfriend be disgusted if my breasts are uneven? How small is “too small” for a penis? How do I get over the fear of my … [Read more...]

Subjectified: The Film

By Emma Shakarshy It’s raining outside. The lighting is low and soft. There is a trail of rose petals leading to a plush white bed. A muscular man and thin, busty woman, glistening with sweat are having mind-blowing sex, tangling themselves in the sheets. They climax together, the woman’s moans jumping an octave just before the … [Read more...]

Four Ways To Support Your Friend Who’s Being Slut-Shamed

By Shannon Ridgway at Everyday Feminism Most of you have probably heard of the phrase “slut-shaming,” but for those who haven’t, allow me to educate you about this unfortunately common and very hurtful behavior. Slut-shaming, according to Wikipedia, is defined as follows: “The act of making someone, usually a woman, feel … [Read more...]