The Problem With Consent


By Rosanna Brunwin, Intern 2015 TW: This piece contains discussions of sexual assault and common victim-blaming allegations. Consent. We try to encourage it, require it, make it sexy and cool and fun. But the problem with our cultural outlook on consensual sex goes much deeper than we like to think about. In our legal … [Read more...]

Privilege and Allyship: What They Look Like, and What You Can Do

Stephen Dann

By the Adios Barbie team Privilege. A hard thing to accept, let alone leverage in productive ways. But with intersectional feminism as a core tenet of Adios Barbie, it's something we're always thinking about — and always working to improve. Because "checking your privilege" isn't a one-time thing. It's a constant process of … [Read more...]

As a Black Lesbian, Queerness Is Not Made in My Image


By Kesiena Boom for BuzzFeed, cross-posted with permission I am unable to marry my Blackness and my queerness in my mind. I will pull myself apart. It starts superficially. I clutch at my hair and despair at the frizz and kink and curl. I go to a white salon for only the third time in my life and ask the gay hairdresser to … [Read more...]

Defining a “Metrosexual Male”

Image via François Eiffel

By Sam Killermann, cross-posted from It's Pronounced Metrosexual What does metrosexual mean?  What’s the difference between a metro guy and a non-metro guy?  Isn’t metrosexual just another word for gay?  Is your ringtone from Kimpossible?  These are questions I find myself answering on a semi-daily basis, and I’ll be answering … [Read more...]

Trans Dance: A Complicated Love


By Beck Heiberg Dancing is athletic art, demanding your full attention as an artist and athlete. Your body and mind have to be in sync. It can be hard navigating that while dealing with trans dysphoria and distorted bodily norms. But when gender and art play together, there are no boundaries. I am currently choreographing a … [Read more...]

Mama Needs a New Vag? Plastic Surgery Trend Preys on Post-Pregnancy Vulnerability

Uterus Art by Hey Paul Studios

By Ashley-Michelle Papon If you’re not familiar with Brandi Glanville, consider yourself lucky. The one-time model and current star of “The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” rose to a mediocre level of celebrity as the woman scorned by established B-lister Eddie Cibrian. In 2008, Cibrian, after nine years of marriage, jilted … [Read more...]

Subjectified: The Film


By Emma Shakarshy It’s raining outside. The lighting is low and soft. There is a trail of rose petals leading to a plush white bed. A muscular man and thin, busty woman, glistening with sweat are having mind-blowing sex, tangling themselves in the sheets. They climax together, the woman’s moans jumping an octave just before the … [Read more...]

Every Day Racism and You (AKA: Would you Date an Asian Man?)

What's Happening Hot Stuff? ~Long Duc Dong

By Pia Guerrero, Co-Founder/Editor Last week we had a rather lively Facebook debate around white privilege. Now while a few FB friends acknowledged their privilege, it seems that a handful of folks still don't quite get it. Which is fine and we're not going to lambaste anyone for their hard earned views. But, given that we are … [Read more...]

Fat Black Women Feel Good and That’s a Problem


By Tami Winfrey Harris Here is exhibit thirtyleventybillion of how the positive attributes of black women are twisted, folded and rejiggered to be negative through a racist and sexist lens. … [Read more...]

Regenerating Hymens and Bloody Sheets: What’s Really Going On Down There?


By Therese Shechter A few months ago at a dinner party, the topic of hymens came up (don’t all your dinner parties go like this?) and how on rare occasions the membrane is completely sealed and has to be surgically opened. One of the men there wondered how the condition could go unnoticed, seeing as it would block the … [Read more...]