Doll Parts: The “Barbie Executioner” Strikes Back

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by Melanie Klein, Contributor

My mother never addressed beauty in a critical way. In fact, beauty was rarely openly discussed in my house, but was the lingering weight on the shoulders of all the women in my family. The only times beauty was discussed was when my mother told me I needed to lose weight or when my grandmother told me I needed to “suffer to be beautiful.”

My critique of beauty came far too late in life, after the damage had already been done. Hole’s Courtney Love slapped me upside the head the first time I heard her belt out the lyrics to Doll Parts with gut-wrenching emotion, in her torn baby-doll dress and smeared lipstick .

I am doll eyes/ Doll mouth, doll legs/ I am doll arms, big veins, dog bait/ Yeah, they really want you, they really want you, they really do/ Yeah, they really want you, they really want you, they really do/ I want to be the girl with the most cake

Love stirred the festering agitation in me and eventually I was led to feminism’s door. I’ve been a body-image warrior ever since.

But what if a critical dialogue about the  limited definitions of beauty began early? Let’s face it: these conversations are necessary. Gender socialization does not occur in a vacuum, and even in the most conscious homes unrealistic images of beauty bombard our young people. Few parents can effectively combat the onslaught of conflicting values and norms perpetuated outside the home.

Barbie looms large as a pivotal figure in the lives of young girls. She is the epitome of the mainstream beauty standard, making an impact across race and class: She’s young, thin and, for the most part, white (while Mattel has created “ethnic” Barbie dolls, they sell in lesser quantities and, in the case of Wal-Mart, are sold for less money).

For more than 50 years, Barbie has remained an emblem of idealized femininity and a key element of gender socialization. Barbie fan Danielle Scott, 16, said:

Playing with the hair, the brushes, switching outfits. It really just made girls be girls.All the characteristics of what to look forward to and what girls really could do.

In those 50 years, Barbie has not waned in popularity (gained a pound, developed a wrinkle or gray hair), even in the face of mounting criticism. Rajini Vaidyanathan wrote at the BBC:

Despite some of the negative headlines Barbie is still a hit with girls across America and the world. … More than one billion dolls have been sold since her inception, and according to the doll’s makers, Mattel, 90 percent of American girls aged between three and 10 own at least one.

While it is true that Barbie is more complex than the Bratz (the googly-eyed dolls with a “passion for fashion”) and has had at least 125 jobs over the last half-century (jobs that presumably allowed her to purchase her multiple homes, extensive wardrobe and pink Corvette), Barbie is not famous for her extensive resume. Even Toy Story 3′s “renegade” Barbie doesn’t redefine Barbie’s cultural presence. Bottom line, Barbie is not defined by her career or the chutzpah she eventually taps into to help free Woody and the gang in Pixar’s latest. She is a timeless beauty icon. Period.

Generations after Mattel executive (and “kinky swinger”) Jack Ryan created Barbie, she continues to reinforce the beauty myth that pervades all aspects of the dominant culture. But with her alien measurements, Caucasian features, ivory skin, blond hair and unnaturally thin body how can anyone possibly measure up? I had a vintage Barbie scale fixed at 110 pounds, which would inform my notion of a woman’s ideal weight for most of my adult life.

Evelyn Ticona-Vergaray reports in “Barbie’s 50 years of beauty and controversy” on UPIU:

Studies made by the Wellness Resource Center at Vanderbilt University in Tennessee confirmed that a human version with Barbie’s body proportions would only have room for an esophagus or a trachea in her neck, a tibia or a fibula in her legs, and that she would have to crawl to support her top-heavy frame.

Academics from the University of South Australia suggest that chances of finding a woman having Barbie’s body shape is one in 100,000. Moreover, researchers at Finland’s University Central Hospital say if Barbie were a real woman she would lack the 17 to 22 percent of body fat required for a woman to menstruate.

Most girls and women could never and will never look like Barbie although many try (and some try harder than others). So, as an ambassador of a twisted yet omnipresent beauty norm, it’s no wonder that Barbie is subject to “torture play.” Ticona-Vergaray also wrote:

Research found in the article “Early adolescents’ experiences with, and views of, ‘Barbie’” revealed a high rate of “torture play” and “anger play” associated with the Barbie doll. Girls admitted to blaming the image of Barbie for their self-consciousness and lack of self esteem due to the simple impossibility of living up to the standards of beauty presented by the plastic doll.

Most anger play is played out in private, with little dialogue or social commentary to accompany the cut hair, dismembered appendages and pins shoved through her cheeks. But recently, my friend Justine showed me pictures of the anger play perpetrated by her pint-sized 9-year-old daughter (lovingly nicknamed the “Barbie executioner”).  Together, mother and daughter turned this anger play into artistic self-expression and social commentary.

Justine, a self-identified feminist, knew there was trouble the first time her then-five-year-old daughter requested a Barbie after she saw one at a friend’s house. Justine, an outspoken, self-assured woman with a personal disdain for Barbie who also teaches a class to young girls called “Tapping the Body’s Wisdom,” was quick to discuss her feelings about Barbie’s “unrealistic portrayal of feminine beauty” as something not worth “aspiring to.”

Mother and daughter critically discussed images of beauty and how the image of Barbie made them feel. Her daughter acknowledged that  she did not look like Barbie. In fact, she acknowledged that no dolls looked like her and, in the end, she consciously acknowledged that she did not want to be that doll. Shortly thereafter, her daughter began to take apart her Barbies (and Bratz dolls) and would play with their heads and appendages alone. After her daughter racked up a pile of doll parts, Justine suggested saving the appendages for a future art project. Eventually, Justine provided her daughter with a canvas and her daughter pored through beauty magazines to find words to express her feelings.

The result?

The inception, process and end result inspired me. I was moved by her 9-year-old’s ability to take the “smallness” Barbie made her feel, a feeling that too often remains silent and is internalized, and articulate it loudly on canvas. We may have a limited measure of control over the images our daughters are exposed to, but we still can help them cultivate a critical consciousness, use their voice and develop a healthy body image.

Originally published at Ms Blog. Cross-posted with permission.

An earlier version appeared at Feminist Fatale as Doll Parts: Barbie, Beauty and Resistance.

Photos courtesy of Justine Amodeo.

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What Do You Get When a Boy Dresses Like a Girl? Acceptance!

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myprincessboyAs a girl I liked to wear clothes that could be considered “boyish”. I received no judgment or questioning just love and support from my mom who let me dress myself at 3 years old. Why should it be different for little boys who are drawn to wear colors and things that sparkle and flow?

This segment from the Seattle show, New Day NW, celebrates four year old Dyson Kilodavis. Dyson’s family and school embrace his wearing of “girls” outfits and love him for his authentic self-expression and innate creativity. Cheryl Kilodavis, Dyson’s mother, has written a book about her son and their experience called My Princess Boy (A mom’s story about a young boy who loves to dress up).  This story gives insight into what our culture would look like if we supported youth for who they are and not for what they look like.  You’ll be blown away by the video below!

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I’m Saving My Cheers Over New, “Authentic” Black Barbie Line

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by Tami Winfrey Harris, originally published at What Tami Said

EL SEGUNDO, Calif. – (Business Wire) Mattel® announced today the launch of So In Style, a new line of black dolls by Barbie® featuring more authentic-looking facial features such as fuller lips, a wider nose, more distinctive cheek bones and curlier hair. So In Style (S.I.S.) was developed and inspired by Barbie® designer of 12 years, Stacey McBride-Irby, an African-American mother of two who wanted to create a line of dolls more reflective of her daughter and community.

The So In Style line features Grace, Kara, and Trichelle dolls, three best friends who are all about fashion, fun and friendship. Each of the dolls features its own unique personality and style and reflects one of three varying skin tones. The S.I.S. line also introduces a mentoring theme; each doll is accompanied by a smaller doll or “little sister: and has different interests – from music and math to science and drill team. The big and little sister dolls are meant to introduce and inspire girls with mentoring themes.

“I believe that a happy inspired childhood creates happy, inspired, powerful women,” said McBride-Irby. “I want my new So In Style dolls to not only be an authentic representation of my community and culture, but to also encourage girls to be inspired and dream big.”

Big sigh?

Okay, before I put on my womanist, anti-racist parent hat and get all humorless, let’s talk about what is good about yesterday’s announcement.

Lots of little girls use fashion dolls for creative play. There is nothing inherently wrong with that. It is troubling, of course, that toys, such as Barbie dolls, can reinforce narrow standards of beauty and damage self-esteem. I wish that young girls did not learn to judge their own beauty by consumerist standards, but too often they do. In that light, it is good to see more variety in the kinds of dolls available. It is good that a young, Black girl can play with a doll with features a smidge closer to hers (as much as Barbie looks like any real person).

It is also good to see a Black woman playing a role in designing a product for an internationally-known mega-company and being given the latitude to inject bits of her culture and community into her work. Surely that says something positive about the opportunities for women and specifically women of color. In fact, I’d rather the little girls in my life play with a Stacy McBride-Irby doll than Grace, Kara or Trichelle. Where can I get a doll like that?

Frankly, though, I am ambivalent about these things. I mean, we are still talking about Barbie, here – BARBIE. As I said in a post about the black sorority Alpha Kappa Alpha introducing a custom Barbie doll to celebrate it’s centennial:

Barbie whose teen version once gleefully spouted insipidness like “Math class is tough!” and “I love shopping!” while AKA was setting up schools for South African girls. Barbie of the 36-18-33 dimensions and permanent tip-toe. Barbie, the symbol of Eurocentric beauty standards that are a tyranny to women of color. Barbie, with her club makeup, stripper fabulous gear and ever more sexualized image. Barbie. Barbie. BARBIE? Really?

Yeah, I know Barbie allegedly has a pilot’s license and at some point, between tooling around in her purple Corvette and riding the elevator in her Dream House, she earned a medical degree, too. But that’s not what Barbie is really about, is it? Those things were just bones thrown to mouthy feminists. Barbie seems like such a symbol of retro womanhood-the look painted and pretty and maybe you’ll find a (hopefully anatomically correct) Ken to get you nice things kind of womanhood. Read more

Like a lot of women, I am uncomfortable with Barbie and her role in the development of young girls. It’s not all Barbie’s fault. It is the space she occupies in the universe of things that influence how girls grow up to be women: what goals they ultimately have, how they see themselves, how they judge their self worth and how they define womanhood.

I also have a beef with the word “authentic: to describe the three acceptably “blackified” dolls. Let’s face it, these dolls don’t represent any sort of break-through in representation of black faces. The skin tones and facial features fall within a narrow range that is acceptable within Eurocentric beauty standards. And to say that their hair is “curly” like that of most Black women (as McBride-Irby does in this video on the consumer page for the new dolls) is being a wee bit disingenuous. Most Black women have hair that is more kinky than curly in its natural state. (These dolls ain’t no nappy heads.) Of course, most Black women chemically straighten or weave up, which makes the dolls an accurate representation. Fine, but don’t try to market them as some representation of “authentic” Black physicality.

I also note, in the linked Mattel page above, the use of vaguely “urban” music, a gold, blingy necklace and a backstory that involves Barbie’s friend Grace moving from California to Chicago, where she hooks up with Kara and Trishelle. The story and associated imagery is relatable for many Black girls, but not all. What about the many, little Black girls who live in the burbs? Of course, these dolls can’t be everything to every child. But again, the use of “authentic” is a marketing fail. The urban experience is no more “authentic” to Black folks than the rural experience.

And these Barbies are no more authentically Black than standard Barbie is a representation of authentic White women.

Do Black children even want dolls that look like them? That is really the rub. You can give a girl Barbie’s best, urban, Black friend, Grace, but even little Black girls will recognize that Grace isn’t the star of this show. The coveted one, the truly beautiful one, the worthy one is blonde, blue-eyed, narrow-featured, skinny Barbie. If the Black version of Barbie was so damned great, then the little White girls on the commercial would be playing with her, too.

Those of us who are familiar with the heart-breaking “doll test” know that even when given a doll that obstensibly looks more like them, Black children are inclined to want and favor the White doll. Black children who are still young enough to play with dolls have already absorbed the larger society’s notions about what is good and what is beautiful – and they know people (and dolls) who look like them are not part of those notions. Mattel’s new Barbies won’t fix this problem – the real problem – I think.

Look, I’m not hating on these dolls or their creator. My nieces love Barbies and I will probably get these for them. And it will be nice to choose a fashion doll that, at least loosely, looks like them. But I recognize that this new Mattel line will not come close to helping them solve the challenges they will face to their self esteem, identity, and eventual womanhood.

Is this an advance for Black women and girls? I’m not so sure.

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Girls and Dieting: Then and Now

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By Jeffrey Azslow
The Wall Street Journal
September 2, 2009

One day in January 1986, fourth-grade girls at Marie Murphy School in Wilmette, Ill., were called down to the principal’s office.

A stranger was waiting there to ask each girl a question: “Are you on a diet?”

Most of the girls said they were.

“I just want to be skinny so no one will tease me,” explained Sara Totonchi.

“Boys expect girls to be perfect and beautiful,” said Rozi Bhimani. “And skinny.”

I was the questioner that day. As a young Wall Street Journal reporter, I had gone to a handful of Chicago-area schools to ask 100 fourth-grade girls about their dieting habits. Researchers at the University of California at San Francisco were about to release a study showing 80% of fourth-grade girls were dieting, and I wanted to determine: Was this a California oddity, or had America’s obsession with slimness reached the 60-pound weight class?

My reporting ended up mirroring the study’s results. More than half of the 9-year-old girls I surveyed said they were dieting, and 75% “even the skinniest ones” said they weighed too much. I also spoke to fourth-grade boys and learned what the girls were up against. “Fat girls aren’t like regular girls,” one boy told me. “They aren’t attractive.”

The front-page story helped spark discussions about America’s worship of thinness and its impact on children. It raised the question: Would these girls be burdened by the dieting culture as they grew into women?

Those girls I interviewed are 32 and 33 years old now, and when I got back in touch with some of them last week, they said that they and their peers have never escaped society’s obsession with body image. While none of them descended into eating disorders, some told stories of damaging diets and serious self-esteem issues regarding their weight.

They felt-and recent studies make clear-that the weight-focused pressures on young girls today are even stronger. In the now-quaint era of 1986, the girls had told me about drinking Diet Cokes and watching Jane Fonda exercise videos. Ms. Totonchi had read a teen novel about a girl with an eating disorder.

But today’s fourth-grade girls are barraged by media images of thinness. They can cruise the Internet visiting “Pro-Ana” (pro-anorexia) Web sites and can view thousands of “thinspiration” videos on YouTube celebrating emaciated young women.

“Models look like popsicle sticks,” Suzanne Reisman told me in fourth grade. Today, she amends her observation: “Now they look like toothpicks.”

In fourth grade, Christy Gouletas told me thin models “are sexy, so boys like them.” Today, she is a middle-school teacher in Wheeling, Ill. On lunch duty each day, she notices 10 girls who eat nothing. “We make them take a few bites,” she says, “but they fight me on it. They say, ‘I’m not hungry,’ and I tell them, ‘You’ve been here since 8 a.m. Of course you’re hungry!’ ”

“The influences are worse now,” says one researcher, Kerry Cave, a clinical nurse leader at Martin Memorial Medical Center in Stuart, Fla. Earlier this year, in the Journal of Psychosocial Nursing, she chronicled the latest research on “the influences of disordered eating in prepubescent children.” Among the findings: A preoccupation with body image is now showing up in children as young as age five, and it can be exacerbated by our culture’s increased awareness of obesity, which leaves many non-overweight kids stressed about their bodies. This dieting by children can stunt growth and brain development.

Incidences of bulimia have tripled since the 1980s and anorexia incidences have also risen, according to studies collected by the National Eating Disorders Association. Parental fixations on weight, children’s urges toward perfectionism, family conflicts, and a $40 billion-a-year dieting industry can all lead girls to disorders. But studies also show that self-starvation in girls can be triggered by media images, including Internet sites promoting anorexia and bulimia as lifestyle choices. Among the pitch lines used on these sites: “Nothing tastes as good as thin feels.” On one recent “Pro-Ana” blog, a woman suggested a 30-hour group fast and received 64 responses such as “I can’t wait to do this fast with you. Thirty hours food-free sounds like heaven” and “I’m with you. Down to the bones.”

Researchers have seen a marked increase in children’s concerns about thinness in just the past few years. Between 2000 and 2006, the percentage of girls who believe that they must be thin to be popular rose to 60% from 48%, according to Harris Interactive surveys of 1,059 girls conducted for the advocacy group Girls Inc.

Compared with the fourth graders of 1986, girls today see body images in ads “that are even further from reality. Retouching is rampant,” says Claire Mysko, author of “You’re Amazing,” a book encouraging self-esteem in girls. She worries that childhood obesity-prevention efforts can make girls obsessive about weight. While these programs are important vehicles to fight a growing problem, “we have to be really careful how we are implementing nutrition and body imaging,” she says.

Those fourth graders of 1986, now all grown up, offer heartfelt reflections on all of these issues.

Ms. Totonchi is public-policy director at the Southern Center for Human Rights in Atlanta. In fourth grade she told me she wanted to be thin so no one would tease her. “What I said that day is still very true,” she says. Today, she watches her weight “so I can be successful in a world that puts great emphasis on how a person looks.”

She vows to do so through healthy eating. As an adult, she once experimented with a low-carb diet and says she still has high blood pressure as a result. “It did so much damage to me,” she says. “It was a lesson to me not to follow fads.”

Ms. Reisman, now a writer and blogger in New York, says she was an emotional eater as an adolescent, “turning to food for comfort.” She got heavier in college, but she now watches what she eats and weighs a healthy 125 pounds. She is concerned about the heightened pressures on girls today to be thin and sexy. She knows of 9-year-olds asking their mothers to buy them thong underwear. “That’s horrifying to me,” she says.

Ms. Gouletas, the teacher, says she was “always a fat kid” and is now 40 pounds overweight. Even though she eats healthy food and exercises five days a week, it’s hard for her to shed pounds.

As a fourth grader, Krista Koranda recognized that some people can’t help being overweight. “We don’t make fun of fat girls,” she said. Not all her male classmates were as empathetic. One boy in her class responded that if someone can’t help being fat, “then you shouldn’t make fun of them. But girls in the fourth grade can help it.”

Now a public-relations consultant in Boulder, Colo., Ms. Koranda Torvik (her married name) says she appreciates it when ad campaigns today use plus-size models. “That’s encouraging,” she says, even though such ads are the exception.

In fourth grade in 1986, Ms. Bhimani says, she and her friends admired teen celebrities such as Molly Ringwald, “girls who were skinny but healthy.” Now, the actresses on teen TV shows such as the resurrected “90210″ are being called “alarmingly thin” in media reports. “They look so unhealthy,” says Ms. Bhimani, an attorney for the Federal Trade Commission in Chicago. “And it’s a skinny that’s unattainable for most people.”

Ms. Bhimani became heavy in college and later took off 40 pounds through exercise and portion control. When she reread my 1986 Journal article, she found some of the boys’ comments “appalling.” She thought about her 3-year-old son. In six years, he’ll be in fourth grade.

“I hope I am able to instill values in my little guy that help him see past weight,” she says. “The pressure to stay thin comes from many different sources in society, and I just hope my son isn’t one of those sources.”

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A Picture Worth a Thousand Words

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Originally posted from the New York Times.

I was struck by this image for it says so much about our culture. The other day a Chinese American friend told me her daughter wished she could look like her White doll. I guess the more things change, the more they stay the same. It’s a shame. If you’re coming across the same issue or just want your children to have their world reflect them, check out Dolls Like Me. They rock our world!

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Pixie Dust: The Opium of Young Masses

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Disney, Casino Capitalism and the Exploitation of Young Boys: Beyond the Politics of Innocence

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Great article from Truthout.org on Disney’s role in creating consumers out of our kids. Here’s a taste…

Since children’s identities have to be actively directed toward the role of consumers, knowledge, information, entertainment and cultural pedagogy become central in shaping and influencing every waking moment of children’s daily lives.

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