“Sudden Adulthood”: How Growing Up Too Fast Is a Normal Part of Life

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By Lisbeth Leftwich, Intern 2015 The Millennial generation is a harbinger of doom ... or so the media would have us believe. Since this generation started to enter its teenage years, multitudes of articles have condemned the ways a zombielike obsession with technology coupled with over-nurturing since birth created millions of … [Read more...]

29 Lessons I’ve Learned About My Body in 29 Years

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By Jessica Roberts, Intern 2015 Oh, hello there, 29th birthday. Here come the wrinkles. Is that a gray hair? Are parts getting ... droopier? As a woman, I think I'm supposed to feel some kind of fear or anxiety about the approaching third decade of my life: the signs of aging, the mortgage, the sense that I'm supposed to … [Read more...]

“But You Don’t Look Sick” — Living With a Chronic Invisible Illness

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By Jessica Roberts, Intern 2015 "Mom," I choked into the phone. "Mom, I —" Mom, I can't breathe. Mom, I'm clawing at my legs and arms, like I'm trying to break out of my own skin. Mom, I think I'm dying. "Jessica? Jessica!" My mother's voice carried through the phone and across the country. "You're OK. Just take a … [Read more...]

Dark Times Under the Radar: Black Women and Mental Illness

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By Lakesha Lafayett TW: This post contains discussions of trauma, suicide, and self-harm, and may be triggering for some readers. It's a darkness and chaos many people experience, but few understand. Mental health issues are no doubt a problem, yet in trying to get help, black women and other women of color face challenges … [Read more...]

5 Unexpected Truths About Aging No One Talks About

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by Cyndi Springford   “Women may be the one group that grows more radical with age.” — Gloria Steinem My early impressions of aging were, of course, procured by watching my parents deal with it. Both of them have their fair share of hang-ups when it comes to appearance. Mom would spend almost two hours fussing … [Read more...]

Why We Should Think Twice Before Idealizing Ruby Rose

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By Sam Dylan Finch for Let's Queer Things Up!, cross-posted with permission The Internet is abuzz about Ruby Rose, a genderfluid actor, DJ, and model who appeared in Season 3 of Netflix Original Series Orange Is the New Black. While Rose is undoubtedly stunning and a perfectly lovely person, our idealization of Ruby Rose … [Read more...]

The Era of “Mad” Men: How Sexism Stigmatizes Men’s Mental Health

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By Megan Dottermusch The stereotype can be traced back through the ages — in biblical stories, fables, and Shakespearean masterpieces, women are ruled by mercurial emotions, and men are the stoic defenders of rational thought and logic. Feminists across the country have spent decades trying to prove that negative biases against … [Read more...]

The Glorification of Masculinity in the Queer Dating Scene Is Totally a Thing — But No One Seems to Want to Talk About It

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By Erin Tatum for Everyday Feminism, cross-posted with permission My foray into queerness started, quite stereotypically, in my freshman year of college when I was 19. I tried to convince myself that I was taken aback by my sudden attraction to my cute, androgynous friend in the Queer Straight Alliance club, but in reality, … [Read more...]

A Hairy Situation: Body Hair and Gender Construction

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By Rosanna Brunwin, Intern 2015 "Hey, just so you know, your armpits are hairy." I was working my shift behind a local bar when a customer, who had been sitting by the bar for a fair while already, "helpfully" pointed out my underarms. "I know," I said. "I like them like that." He was incredulous that I had purposefully … [Read more...]

As a Black Lesbian, Queerness Is Not Made in My Image

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By Kesiena Boom for BuzzFeed, cross-posted with permission I am unable to marry my Blackness and my queerness in my mind. I will pull myself apart. It starts superficially. I clutch at my hair and despair at the frizz and kink and curl. I go to a white salon for only the third time in my life and ask the gay hairdresser to … [Read more...]